He's just not into you
Love and relationship is something special that most of us
get to experience. But, one thing is important which is, finding out if your
significant other feels the same way. There’s nothing as sad as having an
unrequited love. Or, perhaps, what’s even much worse is forcing yourself on
someone that you know doesn’t love you.
And how do you know when someone isn’t
into you?
The truth is right in your face
Often times we go around looking for something else whereas,
it’s right in front of us if only we could see it. Or, we know the truth
already but we turn our eyes away and live a lie just because we’re scared of solitariness.
Time
If a guy truly likes you, 24hrs won’t be enough time to hang
around you. It’s just like high school and always stealing glances or going
almost everywhere your crush goes. Although, there are people who get busy from
time to time. Truth is, even after this, he would want some ‘you and me time’.
Doesn’t reciprocate
You find out you’re the one pushing the relationship,
planning dates, buying presents, etc. One advice I always give to people in
relationships is, ‘do not be the available one.’ Seriously, you don’t want to
make yourself too available every time, he won’t value you. Have something
doing. Have a group of friends or a project you’re working on. Have a life.
If you’re buying presents and he doesn’t feel the need
because he was ‘busy’ or doesn’t meet up with you because ‘something came up.’
Take a hint.
Doesn’t act like you exist
What are you waiting for sticking with someone that acts
like they could replace you in a second?
Never lose your esteem because of a guy. If you see he doesn’t
reference you or cares, take the door ! No matter how cute or handsome. I remember
the day one handsome dude I liked then asked for my iG handle. I was really
excited but then, he went through my posts without a single like after I had
liked a couple of his. There, I knew there was something wrong. One thing I’ll
never do is show a guy I’m a fan or something. Yeah, I could be having
butterflies or blushing at you but that doesn’t mean I’ll lose my esteem for
you.
If you find anyone that acts like you’re non-existent, treat
them like a ghost.
Flirts with other people
A guy that treats you
the same way he treats every other girl isn’t exactly someone you should fall
for. If he flirts with other people in your presence, it means he doesn’t just
only love you but doesn’t have respect for you as well.
Doesn’t get jealous
I don’t know if it’s just me but, I think a guy that doesn’t
feel a bit jealous when you’re hanging out with other guys isn’t into you. If
he’s unbothered or encourages it, you need to change your boyfriend as soon as
possible. Your boyfriend should only want you for him but if not, brace
yourself up for the friend zone.
Doesn’t show you off
Unless he’s really shy, if he doesn’t want anyone to know
you’re with him, he’s not for you.
No connection
If you notice that there’s no spark when you’re together or
staying alone together is more uncomfortable than being in the midst of
friends, there’s something wrong especially if you’re the one bringing up the
conversations.
When do you think it’s love?
Sometimes, we misunderstand things and think too far than we
ought to. We let our emotions flow and then, a guy comes to say hi, next thing
you’re thinking of is how your fifth month anniversary is going to look like. Is it really love or the idea of love we have
already in our heads?
Thank you for reading. You are amazing!
